- 1: What would you name your future daughter?
- 2: Do you miss anyone?
- 3: What if I told you that you were pretty?
- 4: Ever been told “it’s not you, it’s me”?
- 5: What are you looking forward to in the next week?
- 6: Did you go out or stay in last night?
- 7: How late did you stay up last night?
- 8: Honestly, has anyone seen you in your underwear in the past 3 months?
- 9: What were you doing at 12:30 this afternoon?
- 10: Have you ever told somebody you loved them and not actually meant it?
- 11: Could you go for the rest of your life without drinking alcohol?
- 12: Have you pretended to like someone?
- 13: Could you go the rest of your life without smoking a cigarette?
- 14: Is there one person in your life that can always make you smile?
- 15: Is it hard for you to get over someone?
- 16: Think back five months ago, were you single?
- 17: Have you ever cried from being so mad?
- 18: Hold hands with anyone this week?
- 19: Did your last kiss take place in/on a bed?
- 20: Who did you last see in person?
- 21: What is the last thing you said out lot?
- 22: Have you kissed three or more people in one night?
- 23: Have you ever been to Paris?
- 24: Are you good at hiding your feelings?
- 25: Do you use chap stick?
- 26: Who did you last share a bed with?
- 27: Are you listening to music right now?
- 28: What is something you currently want right now?
- 29: Were your last three kisses from the same person?
- 30: How is your heart lately?
- 31: Do you wear the hood on your hoodie?
- 32: When was the last time a member of the opposite sex hugged you?
- 33: What do people call you?
- 34: Have you ever wanted to tell someone something but didn’t?
- 35: Are there any stressful situations in your life?
- 36: What are you listening to right now?
- 37: What is wrong with you right now?
- 38: Love really is a beautiful thing huh?
- 39: Do you make wishes at 11:11?
- 40: What is on your wrists right now?
- 41: Are you single/taken/heartbroken/confused/waiting for the unexpected?
- 42: Where did you get the shirt/sweatshirt you’re wearing?
- 43: Have you ever regretted kissing someone?
- 44: Have you hugged someone within the last week?
- 45: Have you kissed anyone in the last five days?
- 46: What were you doing at midnight last night?
- 47: Do you miss the way things were six months ago?
- 48: Would you rather sleep with someone else or alone?
- 49: Have you ever been to New York?
- 50: Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it?
First of all, you’re not even dating him.
Second of all, you know they’re just friends.
But because you don’t know everything that goes on/has gone on between them, you go all psycho-stalker/crazy bitch… You know what I mean too…
You stalk his profile. You stalk her profile. You look at…
I’m addressing both girls and guys because I feel both genders have their flaws with this topic. I don’t like when one gender attacks the other, calling “stereotypes” based on action only a few people from either gender commit. Like for example: Not all guys are jerks and not all girls friendzone their closest guys friends. I’ll try to make my points as organized as possible, so here goes.
I’ve known several guys who claim to always be friendzoned when they think they’d be the perfect boyfriend. I’m not saying any of you guys are bad or awful but there’s something you do have to realize. Attraction is one of the main points of a relationship, not that I know from experience but from what I’ve witnessed. Attraction is not the same thing as “good looks” or looks in general. Of course looks do matter but not in the sense of “attractive people belong with attractive people”. It’s essential to be attracted to someone that you want to be with because somewhere down the line, there will be a physical connection between the two of you and if there is no attraction, it will be harder to be in that relationship. Only in rare circumstances do people stay together based solely on personality alone. A girl may love all the qualities in you and may tell you to your face that you’d be the perfect boyfriend but don’t expect her to like you. It’s merely a statement. One example is the friendship between me and my closest guy friend John. He is the greatest human being I’ve ever known and is the most wonderful friend, but he is my friend and nothing else. We used to have crushes on one another but it was short lived. We’re not attracted to each other and that’s okay. We don’t dwell on the fact that we can’t have one another because there is no spark. You may like someone or even be in love with them but being mad or depressed about them not having those feelings in return is only hurting yourself, especially if those feelings turn into you being mad at that person for not liking you back. Bottom line: Never expect or try to force something that isn’t there. Before you decide to back off, make sure you fully establish where you stand in each other’s lives and move on from that. Never assume there’s more unless they decide to tell you there’s more. It’s frustrating but it is the truth.
Now girls, we all do this at some point in our lives and it’s not our proudest moment but someday we have to admit that we do this. When we like a guy and we talk to them intimately and personally, we get this idea that being able to talk to a guy means we could be in a relationship with them. Not that it can’t happen, but we can’t assume that because we feel that if one or a few guys open up to us that we’re their world. We develop these egos in which we are dead certain that whoever we talk to likes us back. That is not always the case. The guy may say cutesy things and make you laugh but that does not mean he likes you. It could just be that you’re becoming better friends. The next thing we do is similar to the guys that feel that they are friendzoned do. We get so upset and mad at these guys for not liking us back because we felt they led us on. We seriously need to check ourselves before we wreck ourselves because we end up conjuring up so many ridiculous scenarios that we end up pissed off when it doesn’t go our way. Not every guy is going to like us so we need to be able to cope with that. Unless this is guy really wrecks you and fucks you up, you cannot expect every guy to be different but at the same time you need to remember that they’re not all the same and not every heartbreaking experience is the same.
In either situation we can be hurt, we can be scarred but as hard as it is to hear, some things can’t be answered. There’s nothing wrong with feeling sad or feeling angry but to take those issues out on others that we care about only makes it worse. Find someone to talk to, even if you feel they won’t be able to help. There are not enough ears or strong enough people that are willing to commit to someone else and be there for them through everything. No problem is too small so don’t feel like you’re problems don’t mean as much as someone else’s, Even if it’s relationship stuff.
I guess I’d have to say that my main message is this: Regardless of your problem, you have to look at yourself from the outside. Own up to anything you may have done and don’t always make yourself feel like the sole victim. You’re entitled to your feelings about any situation but if you do find a person you can talk to about your problems, they will not see it the same way that you do. A good friend or confidant will not simply agree with you or always take your side so be prepared for that. Don’t get angry with them if they point out something you don’t like. You have to be aware of everything.
All this seems like a mess but I hope I made my points clear and understandable. Feel free to share your thoughts.